High Court Protects Kids of Calif. Gays - Yahoo! News
"'Today's ruling defies logic and common sense by saying that children can have two moms,' said attorney Mathew Staver of Liberty Counsel. 'That policy establishes that moms and dads as a unit are irrelevant when it comes to raising children.'"
EXACTLY!!!!!!! Moms and dads as a unit ARE irrelevant when it comes to raising children. That's exactly right. Loving caregivers who can demonstrate a healthy adult relationship with their partner as well as a healthy, strong parental relationship with their children are relevant when it comes to raising children. Gender is extraneous.
Boys who are raised by effeminate heterosexual fathers or fathers who have no interest in sports or outdoor activities or any of the other stereotypical "guy" stuff aren't penalized by the state. Boys who have absentee fathers whether physically or emotionally, or abusive fathers will not only NOT have a good "male" role model but are far more likely to become neglectful or abusive themselves. Being a "man" shouldn't be about gender, it should be about being a strong, honorable, responsible human being.
The same corollary applies to girls. I had a very feminine mother, who was completely subservient to my abusive alcoholic father, except when she was yelling at him for drinking which just set him off. Nothing about that whole scenario made sense to me then and now that I'm pushing 40 it still doesn't. I didn't have a good female or male role model. I learned more about life and being a "girl" from Judy Blume books than I ever did from my mother. I learned about the mechanics of sex in the third grade from a sixth grader on the bus. When children are young they need to be taught to be good citizens, be curious and to love. As they grow older they will begin to discover what gender means to them and they will find the role model that demonstrates how they want to personify that. My hubby's father figure wasn't his emotionally unavailable father, it was his maternal grandfather. I never found a good female role model for myself. I just had to figure it out on my own. Which, I suppose, is why I find the superficial trappings of femininity so annoying. I find the strength of character, intelligence and intuition of "woman" to be the attributes I aspire to attain.
There is no "perfect" set of parents. The only criteria that SHOULD be applied to parents is that they love each other and they love their kids and they put the kids first. Unfortunately, as long as we are under the bootheels of the Xtian Rong, this criteria won't matter. As long as one has a penis and the other a vagina and that they were BORN with said equipment, they will be deemed ideal parents. No others need apply. And if that doesn't work we'll shove these poor kids into orphanages or foster homes until the proper set of male/female parents can be found. Or until they age out without ever having known a stable family environment and then have to try and make it in the world and have a successful adult relationship/family environment of their own. Talk about setting someone up for failure. CRAP!
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